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Post by roach on Jan 12, 2010 2:38:26 GMT -5
i just found out that a friend of my wife died in a car accident. my wife is on a road trip with her sister visiting family.
option 1. keep it quiet even though cindie will miss the funeral.
option 2. tell her even if she has no chance of making it back for the funeral.
option 3. tell her everything and tell her i have taken care of everything for her.
option 4. pick her up when she flies in.
guys, her friend has a 3 year old daughter. what i know about women could half fill a thimble. any advice would be welcome.
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Post by carrr on Jan 12, 2010 17:58:59 GMT -5
Roach this a no brainer.
Tell her everything, let her make the decision on what to do and support her anyway you can with what decision she makes.
All other options could cause trouble for you if she precieves you are trying to influence a decision that she may regret in the future.
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Post by pepprdog on Jan 12, 2010 19:20:12 GMT -5
Agreed, Let her make the decision for what she should do. Offer support but don't hold any information like that for any reason, that will only add to her grief.
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Post by BigAl on Jan 12, 2010 19:57:11 GMT -5
Yes the answer is clear. She needs to know.
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Post by roach on Jan 13, 2010 0:32:05 GMT -5
thanks guys she will be home in the morning
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Post by Mangler on Jan 13, 2010 17:05:48 GMT -5
Sorry to see this after the fact Sam. My condolences to the family.
Boys were right though.
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Post by carrr on Jan 13, 2010 20:12:08 GMT -5
I hope we helped. Between Lou, Al and myself, we have over 75 years of marital bliss. My wife read your post and my responce, she said I did OK. After 30 years of marrage, OK is pretty good.
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Post by mommabear on Jan 14, 2010 20:06:49 GMT -5
OH you guys rock! Just a bunch of soft hearts who woulda thought! You did good. I knew from the time I met yo u all! T.
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Post by roach on Jan 15, 2010 3:11:16 GMT -5
i lucked out cindie came home earlier than planned and i never had to lie or omit certain truths. thank you all again for the great advice.
my only reason for doubt was a similar situatiom with my grandmothers death in which cindie held back info to not spoil our weekend.
she made the right call and thanks to you guys so dd i
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